Have you ever wondered what it is like to be in a long distance relationship? Are you someone who believes that they cannot work? Do you think that the one or both persons eventually end up cheating on their partner?Speaking from personal experience, I can certify that long distance relationships can work and that both persons involve can remain faithful to each other even though with hundreds of miles between them. Nevertheless, I would say if you can avoid it its best to not get involved in a long distance relationship. What I mean by this is do not intentionally search for partners who do not live in the same country and town as you do. I can imagine you are wondering why I would say such a thing if my experience with it has been positive?
As many of us already know, long distance relationships are extremely hard and they can make you feel extremely lonely. Especially, when you are surrounded by others. What do I mean by that? Well, I notice that the times I miss my boyfriend most are the times when I have an event to attend or I am going to places that we went to together. Such as the beach, the movies or even shopping. Whenever I am at one of those places, I remember how much fun we had together and what it was like to be there with him and my solo experience is no where as fun without him. What is worse, is that I know that he won't be there when I go home and I can't just call him up and ask something like "hey you want to go watch a movie with me today?" The only times that is possible is when we are in the same country.
Which brings me to the next negative about being in a long distance relationship which is the time and costs that goes into commuting. If your lucky and your in a long distance relationship and your partner is only a few hours drive away then you may not fell the pinch as much as my boyfriend and i do. If i had to put a dollar value on the amount of money we have spend on plane tickets alone in the last four years it would probably be between 25k and 30k. That is unbelievable! Do you know how much other things we could have used that money for if we lived in the same country? I am not even going to think about it because i would probably get a head it. (I am not saying that it wasn't worth it cause spending time with him is priceless I am just saying thats a whole lot of money)
I guess my point is even though I am in a long distance relationship and i am happy with my boyfriend sometimes it gets really hard to not be able to see him face to face everyday. It is not for persons who have trust issues and certainly not for persons who are clingy and always need someone around them. Long distance relationships work when you understand that in order to stay together you have to be faithful, honest and be willing to take the time and spend the money it takes to get you together as much as possible so you can keep the relationship alive.
As many of us already know, long distance relationships are extremely hard and they can make you feel extremely lonely. Especially, when you are surrounded by others. What do I mean by that? Well, I notice that the times I miss my boyfriend most are the times when I have an event to attend or I am going to places that we went to together. Such as the beach, the movies or even shopping. Whenever I am at one of those places, I remember how much fun we had together and what it was like to be there with him and my solo experience is no where as fun without him. What is worse, is that I know that he won't be there when I go home and I can't just call him up and ask something like "hey you want to go watch a movie with me today?" The only times that is possible is when we are in the same country.
Which brings me to the next negative about being in a long distance relationship which is the time and costs that goes into commuting. If your lucky and your in a long distance relationship and your partner is only a few hours drive away then you may not fell the pinch as much as my boyfriend and i do. If i had to put a dollar value on the amount of money we have spend on plane tickets alone in the last four years it would probably be between 25k and 30k. That is unbelievable! Do you know how much other things we could have used that money for if we lived in the same country? I am not even going to think about it because i would probably get a head it. (I am not saying that it wasn't worth it cause spending time with him is priceless I am just saying thats a whole lot of money)
I guess my point is even though I am in a long distance relationship and i am happy with my boyfriend sometimes it gets really hard to not be able to see him face to face everyday. It is not for persons who have trust issues and certainly not for persons who are clingy and always need someone around them. Long distance relationships work when you understand that in order to stay together you have to be faithful, honest and be willing to take the time and spend the money it takes to get you together as much as possible so you can keep the relationship alive.
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