Neighbour Voodoo Chronicles...

She is at it again... My crazy azz neighbour is raking the yard with salt again!!!! Not only is she raking the yard again she is singing her spirituals. How can you believe in God and Voodoo at the same time? Don't get me wrong I know that the bible warns us of the presence of witchcraft, however i believe that the only thing you need to keep you safe is faith and belief that God protects his own... She needs prayers...

Current Mood: Anxious and Excited

Yay One more day and he will be here finally :D Damn it feels like I have been waiting all year to be with him again. I love you so much hun!  We are going to have a great summer... I thank God everyday for bringing you into my life because i feel truly loved.

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My Guilty Pleasure is...

I love washing my hair :D for all yall who thought i mean something naughty shame on yall. Anyways, i really do love washing my hair, there is nothing more relaxing than a clean scalp. When i wash my hair i get to say goodbye to the product build up, goodbye to the itchy scalp and hello to clean fresh hair...  When i first cut my hair I used to wash it everyday but now that its longer i found its best to only wash once a week, (anything more and i will probably go more bald..lol) I have been looking into using more natural shampoos and conditioners. I haven't found a shampoo recipe that i am interested in trying yet however as a prepoo i have started using olive oil or olive oil combined with honey. I have found that using olive oil by itself makes my hair really soft when i wash it, the honey + olive oil combo ways may hair down a bit and makes it thicker. I am not sure if i like the honey in my hair yet but i secretly hoping that the honey will lighten my hair colour so I am going continue using it for now.

Freshly washed Hair (it looks a bit white i dont think i got all the conditioner out)

My Hair from a different angle. Looks like matted wool...lol

Detangled  and twisted so it doesnt dry fuzzy

Believe it or not this was after i washed my hair i have no idea why its so whitey... Oh well until the next time i wash it again....

Another Relationship Post..lol

How much should your family's opinion of your partner matter?

This is a question that I am very confused about. Because I think everyone wanta their friend and family to accept the person they are dating, however how much should their opinion matter? Should you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend if your family does not like him/her?

My opinion on this matter has changed drastically especially since i met my boyfriend. When we first met I told him that i could not be in a relationship with him if his family(parents) did not like me. I had several reasons for this. The first we are an interracial couple and secondly, we were embarking on a long distance relationship, those two characteristic presented several challenges for us and i felt like why should we make it worse for ourselves by being in a relationship where the family doesn't approve? 

Nevertheless, now that I have known my boyfriend for a while my views on this have changed. I think that the only opinions that matters when it comes to our relationship is our own. For this reason whenever we have issues we talk about them only with each other and we leave everyone else out of the equation. Relationships are stronger when couples are open with each other and they communicate their problems with each other. Including other persons opinions into the equation only complicates matters, they will only give you advice that is unjustified.  (now back to my topic) As long the family does not disrespect me and as long as i dont disrespect his family i dont think it matters whether they like me or not. (Luckily neither or us have that problem with our families.) I think that its wrong when parents force their opinions on their children. I think everyone should be allowed to make their own decisions especially when the children are happy with their relationship. I understand how sometimes persons buckle under the pressure placed on them by their family which leads them to break up with their partner though to an extent. Likewise, I believe that if you truly love someone and you want to spend your life with that person they should be number 1 in your life. But thats just my opinion...

Relationships are Unpredictable...

It seems like the things i am inspired to write about are always relationship related. I was on Facebook today and i found out that someone on my friends list broke up with her fiancé. Her status change from engaged to single was met with instant responses of "are you serious" and "this cannot be true". Almost everyone who saw her relationship status was in otter disbelief. They seemed like such a happy couple and they were always together. It all seemed so sudden because just today she commented on how excited she was about the wedding she was planning for this august. Her situation made me think about just how unpredictable relationships are and how sometimes we could be in disillusion about how happy our partner is or what he/she is thinking. The final  thought that came to my mind was, could this happen to me? Although i would like to think that my boyfriend is happy with the way our relationship is going who is to say that this time next year the same thing couldn't happen to me?

Writing this blog post made me think about the thought that popped into my head this morning when i woke up this morning which was "Finding true love is worth the risk of heartache" Roughly what this phrase means to me is that sometimes we will fall in love and we may get our hearts broken but we should not let that defer us from finding that person who is truly sent for us. You just give heart the time it needs to mend and try again... I hope that she find the strength to move on and try again, he wasn't the right one for her but i am sure she will find someone else better. 

Me and Cooking...

 So anyone who knows me  probably knows i am not a cook. When i was growing up i would always avoid cooking and all things related to the kitchen. I have used excuses such as i am allergy to the kitchen and its against my religion to cook in order to justify my hatred for all things cooking related. However, now that I am older my opinions of cooking have changed and now i am more inspired to cook. Today i am making pizza YAAAAAAAAAAAY :D I am so excited, i have made other meals that required more skill but i don't have pictures. From now on i am going to take pictures of everything i prepare and blog about how well it turned out. Once i am done i will update this post and show you a picture of my pizza. :D

As promised this is a picture of my pizza. I have better pictures on my cell phone but i couldnt transfer it to my phone so i had to take other pictures on my camera of what was left of my pizza.

My thoughts on the pizza,

For my first time making it i think it came out pretty good. I would add salt to the tomato sauce next time though cause i didnt add any when i made this pizza and i think that was what was missing. I am also going to add a bit more pepper to my pizza cause i like things spicy...lol 

Let That person go...

He doesn't want you anymore, he is dating someone else, why are you wasting your time chasing a man who has clearly moved on? She doesn't want you anymore, she has moved on, she is happy with the new man in her life why can't you just do the same? Truth is no amount of begging, pleading and apologies can make that person want to take you back because while you are wasting your time pining away at the love you may have once had your ex is spending quality time with another and making new memories of their own. Why do you humiliate yourself in public, stalking and monitoring what the other is doing? That time could be better spent on the quest to find your new love. It is not worth your time chasing someone who doesn't want you, move on pickup whatever dignity you have and find someone who will appreciate you. Everyone wants to be loved, but love feels best with its mutual. Life is too short to devote it to someone who doesn't think you are worth his/her time. Do yourself a favour and let that person go. 

Bucket List :D

So i got this idea from www.glamazini.com (kinda) I was going to add a checklist of the things i wanted to do anyways but now thanks to her i get to call it a Bucket List...lol

Here we go :D

• Go on a cruise
• Get Married
• Write a Book ( I should probably take writing classes first though)
• Go camping
• Learn to swim (maybe i am on the fence with this one)
• Speak Fluent Dutch
• Visit Switzerland
• Visit Saint Lucia
• Find a Career ( I still have no idea what my ideal job is and it sucks I am 26!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
• Retire ( I haven't gotten a career yet but i am looking forward to retirement...lol gek he?)

Looks like i am going to have to think about this list some more then add to it. The funny thing is since i met my boyfriend i have done a lot of the things i always wanted to do

Things i have done:

• Visited Mexico (My mother never lets me forget that she paid for this trip)
• Visited Cuba
• Visit Europe ( I have been to France, The Netherlands and Belgium)
• Been on a Train
• Seen Mountains
• Been to Disneyland
• Did a Road trip
• Speak Fluentish Spanish
• Been on a roller coaster (4/5 times and i am still alive) 

Current Mood: Happily Floating along on cloud 9 :D

If you are one of those persons who don't believe in living in Wonderland with Peter Pan i feel sorry for you cause it can be fun sometimes to step out of the normal day to day thinking and just pretend to be without a care in the world. (wow that was just on long sentence. I hate using punctuations in case you didnt notice) I am looking forward to a great summer one full with adventure.

Photo credit This picture belongs to ~VermilionX (No copy right infringment was intended)

My thoughts on Love

I am certainly not an expert on the subject. I was in a relationship for two years before i realised just how strong my love was for my boyfriend. It took us breaking up for me to even consider that i may be in love with him.. I remember judging women who seemed to be on the constant search to find love. Likewise I thought of those women as being pathetic. To me they were nothing more than insecure fools (strong word i know) who needed a man to define them. Nevertheless, that was before I found love myself. Now that i know what it feels like to be in love i have realised that falling in love is a part of being human. We are social beings and its our destiny to find our soul mate. (i think im gonna write on soul mates next) As a result, what i learned is that those women(and men) who put their hearts out there are actually really strong, what i saw as pathetic was actually strength because it takes a lot to give your heart to someone else. 

The Negatives of Being in A Long Distance Relationship

Have you ever wondered what it is like to be in a long distance relationship? Are you someone who believes that they cannot work? Do you think that the one or both persons eventually end up cheating on their partner?Speaking from personal experience, I can certify that long distance relationships can work and that both persons involve can remain faithful to each other even though with hundreds of miles between them. Nevertheless, I would say if you can avoid it its best to not get involved in a long distance relationship. What I mean by this is do not intentionally search for partners who do not live in the same country and town as you do. I can imagine you are wondering why I would say such a thing if my experience with it has been positive?

As many of us already know, long distance relationships are extremely hard and they can make you feel extremely lonely. Especially, when you are surrounded by others. What do I mean by that? Well, I notice that the times I miss my boyfriend most are the times when I have an event to attend or I am going to places that we went to together. Such as the beach, the movies or even shopping. Whenever I am at one of those places, I remember how much fun we had together and what it was like to be there with him and my solo experience is no where as fun without him. What is worse, is that I know that he won't be there when I go home and I can't just call him up and ask something like "hey you want to go watch a movie with me today?" The only times that is possible is when we are in the same country.

Which brings me to the next negative about being in a long distance relationship which is the time and costs that goes into commuting. If your lucky and your in a long distance relationship and your partner is only a few hours drive away then you may not fell the pinch as much as my boyfriend and i do. If i had to put a dollar value on the amount of money we have spend on plane tickets alone in the last four years it would probably be between 25k and 30k. That is unbelievable!  Do you know how much other things we could have used that money for if we lived in the same country? I am not even going to think about it because i would probably get a head it. (I am not saying that it wasn't worth it cause spending time with him is priceless I am just saying thats a whole lot of money)

I guess my point is even though I am in a long distance relationship and i am happy with my boyfriend sometimes it gets really hard to not be able to see him face to face everyday. It is not for persons who have trust issues and certainly not for persons who are clingy and always need someone around them. Long distance relationships work when you understand that in order to stay together you have to be faithful, honest and be willing to take the time and spend the money it takes to get you together as much as possible so you can keep the relationship alive. 

"Celebrities" and reality shows

Is it just me or are reality shows just a way for has been celebrities to make some change (money) and pretend to have the glory they may have had in the past? Don't get me wrong, I love reality shows and I would go as far as to call myself a reality show junkie. Because truth is if it is on television I am going to watch it. What annoys me about these shows is the lack of reality and the insincerity that exists amongst these so called celebrities.Don't worry I will try not to be vague and give you some examples. 

For the love of RJ 1 and 2. That show was the most boring celebrity love show that I have watched, and i am comparing it to Flavor of Love and Rock of Love. Ray J in all his arrogance, encourages the girls to be 1 hunded (my attempt to spell it the say he says it) and be open with him with their feelings, when even a blind person can see he is a playboy (mamas boy is probably a better fit) who is only about the money. Its like if its going to be just a way of making money for him then he should just go with the flow, be humble and have fun with it.  Rather than,  make the women involved delusional about his true intentions. (BTW I hated this show lets hope their wont be another episode)

Another celebrity reality show that annoys me even though I love the show is celebrity fit club. It is like the more seasons the more slimmer the D list celebrities become. I am not saying that slim people do not need a lifestyle change, what I am saying is that the celebrities that go on that show are rude they do not commit to the program, and it seems like they stick to the shortcut methods of losing weight that they did before they were enrolled in the program. That isn't the purpose of the show.

I have told you about two celebrity shows that annoy me, now I will briefly write about the celebrity shows that i like watching the most, which are Celebrity Rehab and Sober House. I believe (I could be wrong cause I don't know him personally) that Dr. Dru main focus is to help celebrities (and non celebrities) get off drugs. I think the show does a good job are showing the negative effects that excessive drug and alcohol use can have on the mind and body... It also shows just how easy it is to become addicted to drugs and how hard it is to get clean.

Celebrity reality shows will be around for a while and I will watch them until I get bored of them or I get over my addiction to television (whichever comes first) 

Am i obsessed with him?

I thought about my posts and what i noticed is that in some way they were all inspired by my boyfriend, which lead me to wonder, am i obsessed with him? my guess is yes but to be sure i did this test online (its for entertainment purposes of course)... to determine if my suspicions are correct. Here are my results: "Your obsession might be mistaken for a DISEASE! You are seriously obsessed and want to marry this dude! Don't worry...time can cure your disease but until then you can be as obsessed as you want. After all, obsessions are entertaining. You probably already share your obsession with your friends and family. That's a good way to let your feelings out but don't annoy them too much...or the disease may become fatal...just kidding! But if you have been known to say his name over and over again in your sleep, it's time to partly drain your brain of this guy - don't let him take over your life"

If you want to take the quiz yourself click here:

Current Mood: Happy and Blissfully in Love

The title says it all, its 9.30pm and i have a HUGE smile on my face just thinking about my boyfriend being here with me next week Thursday. Its been lil over four months since we were together and i cant wait to hug him. Its all i can think about and we have plans to spend four days on the beach enjoying the sun and sand. (The sun is more for him than for me.) I am looking forward to us just relaxing and finally being able to talk without using computers. FINALLY... The purpose of our vacations is for me to learn some dutch but i seriously think speaking dutch is going to be the last thing on our minds.

Going Natural

The Doctors is one of my favourite tv shows. I watch it religiously everyday. One of the results of me watching the show is i have become more health conscious (to a point). What i mean by that is i am more aware of the chemicals that are found in commercial product and the harmful effects that long term use of these products can have on the body. This has inspired me to use natural homemade product. I hope to one day replace all the commercial products i use for homemade natural product.

For example, I want to be able to make my own deodorant, toothpaste, shampoo you name it i want to make it myself. Recently i found a recipe for homemade deodorant inspired by Angry Chicken that i am eager to try. (I will post the recipe on the end of this post). I will probably make it in the next two weeks and post it a review of it by the end of the month. What i like about the recipe is that it is easy to make and the ingredients are pretty easy to find if you know where to look. I may eliminate the shea butter or lower the number of tablespoons (increasing the amount of cocoa butter as a substitute) because i am not found of its smell.

Its funny that I am buying into the living greener campaign, but anyone who knows me knows that ads work on me i will buy into anything thats advertised a lot on television. (sad but true...lol)

Ingredients

• 3 Tablespoons shea butter
  3 Tablespoons baking soda
  2 Tablespoons corn starch
  2 Tablespoons cocoa butter
  2 vitamin E oil capsules (drained, add the oil throw away the capsules :P)
  Essential Oil

• Preparation

• Melt all the ingredients except the vitamin oil and essential oil in the microwave for 30 seconds.
• Add the oil and stir again.
• Pour into a jar and place in fridge to set.
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Often when I witness troubled relationships the first thought that come to my mind is why is she staying? Can't she see he isn't right for her?or i think that she is stupid or has self esteem issues. I go as far as to place myself in her shoes and say if that was me i would have left him long time. I think what most of us outsiders looking in, don't realize is that he may not always be as bad as we may think he is. There are probably times when he is extremely loving, kind and affectionate. Heck he may be a amazing 99% of the time. The times we see him being rude and mean to her is the 1% that is rare. WE don't realize that she is so focused on how he normally treats her that she ignores what are probably warning signs and she follows her heart and ignore her gut instincts. What we don't realize, is that she loves him more than she loves herself. What we don't realize, is that she probably wants to give him the chance to correct the "minor" issues he has. What we don't realize is that he was there for her when she needed him and now she wants to be there for him when he needs her. Love has a way of making people feel trapped. Sometimes, you don't want to let go cause you feel like you're giving up, even if it hurts to stay...

A few weeks ago i read a quote that stuck with me and it said "You accept the love you think you deserve..."

Random Thoughts + Things that puzzle me...(aka..me being disgruntle...lol)

1. I hate when i throw something away and then the next day i find a use for it then i have to end up buying it again. this sucks big time.

2. Why is it that people wait until they are sick to motivate others to live healthy? Like seriously that doesn't work. You have no credibility. I'm sure there were people who were sick and tried to warn you about the importance of being healthy but you didn't lesson did you? If you had then you wouldn't be sick right now (maybe)

3. Why do parents always tell you to grow up when they want you to do something that you, and tell you your growing up too fast when they dont like the decisions you make for yourself. YALL ARE SENDING MIXED MESSAGES! (rant from my teenage years)

4. Why do we always procrastinate and once your finally finish promise not to do it again... But end up doing it again anyways and to justify procrastination we say well i always thing better under pressure.

5. Why do people ask the question " How are you" to strangers? They know they dont really care. One of these days I am gonna say exactly how crappy i think my day is going. I bet they wont ask me that again.

To be cont'd I am sure...

I HATE MUSIC ON Blogs

Since i have started blogging, my interests in other peoples blogs have grown. I think i am following about 10-15 blogs right now there is one pet peeve i have about blogs that stands out right now. I HATE MUSIC ON BLOGS... I go there to read not listen to music.The music mostly isnt my taste and it is so distracting sometimes. I dont think i should have to mute the sound on my computer just so i can read your blog. So bloggers please dont add music to you blog unless there is a button to turn it off... Huge request from someone who could just avoid going to blogs with music..lol Anyways truth is people can do whatever they want with their blog maybe i should add music to mine...lol (Like i said in one of my first blogs i am random and crazy i hope my readers (the both of you can keep up with me...lol)