This is a question that I am very confused about. Because I think everyone wanta their friend and family to accept the person they are dating, however how much should their opinion matter? Should you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend if your family does not like him/her?
My opinion on this matter has changed drastically especially since i met my boyfriend. When we first met I told him that i could not be in a relationship with him if his family(parents) did not like me. I had several reasons for this. The first we are an interracial couple and secondly, we were embarking on a long distance relationship, those two characteristic presented several challenges for us and i felt like why should we make it worse for ourselves by being in a relationship where the family doesn't approve?
Nevertheless, now that I have known my boyfriend for a while my views on this have changed. I think that the only opinions that matters when it comes to our relationship is our own. For this reason whenever we have issues we talk about them only with each other and we leave everyone else out of the equation. Relationships are stronger when couples are open with each other and they communicate their problems with each other. Including other persons opinions into the equation only complicates matters, they will only give you advice that is unjustified. (now back to my topic) As long the family does not disrespect me and as long as i dont disrespect his family i dont think it matters whether they like me or not. (Luckily neither or us have that problem with our families.) I think that its wrong when parents force their opinions on their children. I think everyone should be allowed to make their own decisions especially when the children are happy with their relationship. I understand how sometimes persons buckle under the pressure placed on them by their family which leads them to break up with their partner though to an extent. Likewise, I believe that if you truly love someone and you want to spend your life with that person they should be number 1 in your life. But thats just my opinion...
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