Let That person go...

He doesn't want you anymore, he is dating someone else, why are you wasting your time chasing a man who has clearly moved on? She doesn't want you anymore, she has moved on, she is happy with the new man in her life why can't you just do the same? Truth is no amount of begging, pleading and apologies can make that person want to take you back because while you are wasting your time pining away at the love you may have once had your ex is spending quality time with another and making new memories of their own. Why do you humiliate yourself in public, stalking and monitoring what the other is doing? That time could be better spent on the quest to find your new love. It is not worth your time chasing someone who doesn't want you, move on pickup whatever dignity you have and find someone who will appreciate you. Everyone wants to be loved, but love feels best with its mutual. Life is too short to devote it to someone who doesn't think you are worth his/her time. Do yourself a favour and let that person go. 

Bucket List :D

So i got this idea from www.glamazini.com (kinda) I was going to add a checklist of the things i wanted to do anyways but now thanks to her i get to call it a Bucket List...lol

Here we go :D

• Go on a cruise
• Get Married
• Write a Book ( I should probably take writing classes first though)
• Go camping
• Learn to swim (maybe i am on the fence with this one)
• Speak Fluent Dutch
• Visit Switzerland
• Visit Saint Lucia
• Find a Career ( I still have no idea what my ideal job is and it sucks I am 26!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
• Retire ( I haven't gotten a career yet but i am looking forward to retirement...lol gek he?)

Looks like i am going to have to think about this list some more then add to it. The funny thing is since i met my boyfriend i have done a lot of the things i always wanted to do

Things i have done:

• Visited Mexico (My mother never lets me forget that she paid for this trip)
• Visited Cuba
• Visit Europe ( I have been to France, The Netherlands and Belgium)
• Been on a Train
• Seen Mountains
• Been to Disneyland
• Did a Road trip
• Speak Fluentish Spanish
• Been on a roller coaster (4/5 times and i am still alive) 

Current Mood: Happily Floating along on cloud 9 :D

If you are one of those persons who don't believe in living in Wonderland with Peter Pan i feel sorry for you cause it can be fun sometimes to step out of the normal day to day thinking and just pretend to be without a care in the world. (wow that was just on long sentence. I hate using punctuations in case you didnt notice) I am looking forward to a great summer one full with adventure.

Photo credit This picture belongs to ~VermilionX (No copy right infringment was intended)

My thoughts on Love

I am certainly not an expert on the subject. I was in a relationship for two years before i realised just how strong my love was for my boyfriend. It took us breaking up for me to even consider that i may be in love with him.. I remember judging women who seemed to be on the constant search to find love. Likewise I thought of those women as being pathetic. To me they were nothing more than insecure fools (strong word i know) who needed a man to define them. Nevertheless, that was before I found love myself. Now that i know what it feels like to be in love i have realised that falling in love is a part of being human. We are social beings and its our destiny to find our soul mate. (i think im gonna write on soul mates next) As a result, what i learned is that those women(and men) who put their hearts out there are actually really strong, what i saw as pathetic was actually strength because it takes a lot to give your heart to someone else. 

The Negatives of Being in A Long Distance Relationship

Have you ever wondered what it is like to be in a long distance relationship? Are you someone who believes that they cannot work? Do you think that the one or both persons eventually end up cheating on their partner?Speaking from personal experience, I can certify that long distance relationships can work and that both persons involve can remain faithful to each other even though with hundreds of miles between them. Nevertheless, I would say if you can avoid it its best to not get involved in a long distance relationship. What I mean by this is do not intentionally search for partners who do not live in the same country and town as you do. I can imagine you are wondering why I would say such a thing if my experience with it has been positive?

As many of us already know, long distance relationships are extremely hard and they can make you feel extremely lonely. Especially, when you are surrounded by others. What do I mean by that? Well, I notice that the times I miss my boyfriend most are the times when I have an event to attend or I am going to places that we went to together. Such as the beach, the movies or even shopping. Whenever I am at one of those places, I remember how much fun we had together and what it was like to be there with him and my solo experience is no where as fun without him. What is worse, is that I know that he won't be there when I go home and I can't just call him up and ask something like "hey you want to go watch a movie with me today?" The only times that is possible is when we are in the same country.

Which brings me to the next negative about being in a long distance relationship which is the time and costs that goes into commuting. If your lucky and your in a long distance relationship and your partner is only a few hours drive away then you may not fell the pinch as much as my boyfriend and i do. If i had to put a dollar value on the amount of money we have spend on plane tickets alone in the last four years it would probably be between 25k and 30k. That is unbelievable!  Do you know how much other things we could have used that money for if we lived in the same country? I am not even going to think about it because i would probably get a head it. (I am not saying that it wasn't worth it cause spending time with him is priceless I am just saying thats a whole lot of money)

I guess my point is even though I am in a long distance relationship and i am happy with my boyfriend sometimes it gets really hard to not be able to see him face to face everyday. It is not for persons who have trust issues and certainly not for persons who are clingy and always need someone around them. Long distance relationships work when you understand that in order to stay together you have to be faithful, honest and be willing to take the time and spend the money it takes to get you together as much as possible so you can keep the relationship alive. 

"Celebrities" and reality shows

Is it just me or are reality shows just a way for has been celebrities to make some change (money) and pretend to have the glory they may have had in the past? Don't get me wrong, I love reality shows and I would go as far as to call myself a reality show junkie. Because truth is if it is on television I am going to watch it. What annoys me about these shows is the lack of reality and the insincerity that exists amongst these so called celebrities.Don't worry I will try not to be vague and give you some examples. 

For the love of RJ 1 and 2. That show was the most boring celebrity love show that I have watched, and i am comparing it to Flavor of Love and Rock of Love. Ray J in all his arrogance, encourages the girls to be 1 hunded (my attempt to spell it the say he says it) and be open with him with their feelings, when even a blind person can see he is a playboy (mamas boy is probably a better fit) who is only about the money. Its like if its going to be just a way of making money for him then he should just go with the flow, be humble and have fun with it.  Rather than,  make the women involved delusional about his true intentions. (BTW I hated this show lets hope their wont be another episode)

Another celebrity reality show that annoys me even though I love the show is celebrity fit club. It is like the more seasons the more slimmer the D list celebrities become. I am not saying that slim people do not need a lifestyle change, what I am saying is that the celebrities that go on that show are rude they do not commit to the program, and it seems like they stick to the shortcut methods of losing weight that they did before they were enrolled in the program. That isn't the purpose of the show.

I have told you about two celebrity shows that annoy me, now I will briefly write about the celebrity shows that i like watching the most, which are Celebrity Rehab and Sober House. I believe (I could be wrong cause I don't know him personally) that Dr. Dru main focus is to help celebrities (and non celebrities) get off drugs. I think the show does a good job are showing the negative effects that excessive drug and alcohol use can have on the mind and body... It also shows just how easy it is to become addicted to drugs and how hard it is to get clean.

Celebrity reality shows will be around for a while and I will watch them until I get bored of them or I get over my addiction to television (whichever comes first) 

Am i obsessed with him?

I thought about my posts and what i noticed is that in some way they were all inspired by my boyfriend, which lead me to wonder, am i obsessed with him? my guess is yes but to be sure i did this test online (its for entertainment purposes of course)... to determine if my suspicions are correct. Here are my results: "Your obsession might be mistaken for a DISEASE! You are seriously obsessed and want to marry this dude! Don't worry...time can cure your disease but until then you can be as obsessed as you want. After all, obsessions are entertaining. You probably already share your obsession with your friends and family. That's a good way to let your feelings out but don't annoy them too much...or the disease may become fatal...just kidding! But if you have been known to say his name over and over again in your sleep, it's time to partly drain your brain of this guy - don't let him take over your life"

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